Standing up for ourselves - Necessary or not?
Fifteen minutes ago, I came across a news about a girl being victimised of revenge porn. Is this the first time that we have seen stories like this come up? No, indeed not. I took time to read through the article and contemplate on it. The article alone already pains me, however what hurts even more are the comments. I glanced down and I saw were people blaming her, judging her for what she had done. Quite frankly, I would not blame her for this. I believe that she did it because she trusted her boyfriend. Blaming her would be like blaming a person for trusting. She had the trust, but the good judgement was not there. If only she would stop at that moment and think about the circumstances that would come.
"Modern feminism is not necessary," stated one of the comments from a woman in the comment section. Believe me or not, I have not only seen one, but a lot of women who refuses to stand for themselves. What does not make even more sense to me was the fact that she commented it on a post that shows just why and how much we need feminism. Feminism is needed not only to seek for gender equality between men and women, but rather to protect and educate women to love and stand up for themselves. Not to be misunderstood for an "act of promoting man-hating" ideas, feminism is to help both men and women understand the need for equality in the society where no one individual deserves to be victimised.
The people who commented harsh, blameful, judgemental words clearly did not think hard enough on this. It is not only an issue that deals with feminism, but rather everyone out there- both men and women. The article sends a clear message- think before you act. Of course, this would not have happened of the woman had had stopped and thought for herself, but allow me to ask this question: would have it happened if the men decided to stop and think about how much of a trouble he would cause for her? I want you now to weigh the two mistakes-one made by the girl and the other by the guy- in your head. Is it the girl's mistake that is heavier or is it the guy's? In this case, it is the guy's mistake that weighs heavier. Did he make the mistake out of trust? No. He did it out of revenge. Revenge. Again, may I remind you that this article is not written as an intend to make all men look like the guy in the article, but rather to disprove the people who attacked the victim with harsh comments. If even after reading this you still think that it's the woman's fault and that feminism is indeed "unecessary", I advice you to stop thinking and give up; I will just go ahead and tell you that the problem doesn't lie in the fact that you are "not figuring out what the right thing is". The problem lies in your resistance to knowing about the truth; it lies within your denial of Feminism.
To all the women out there, especially those who think that feminism is not necessary, may you allow me to ask you these questions below. If WE women do not even stand up, protect and strengthen ourselves, WHO will? And if we don't stand up NOW, WHEN will we?
To those who are already standing, myself included, STAND FIRM.
--I will be writing another article explaining what I believe Feminism is next time--
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